Arguments You Can’t Win – “You’re Arrogant”
Posted By Aaron Marcelli on October 1, 2010
First of all, I’m not so sure we should always be looking to “win” an argument so much as we should seek to come to understanding or compromise. That being said though, there are some arguments or accusations that not only can you not win, you can hardly defend yourself without looking bad. The next few posts will be examples of this. When these things are said, a dead end has been reached and you rarely will be able to do or say anything to improve your image in the mind of the person making the accusation. My best advice would be to just walk away.
“You’re arrogant”
See what I mean! What can you say to that? What response can there possible be? “No I’m not – I’m humble!”?? Doesn’t sound good does it?
Humility is a tricky thing and it has been said that the moment you try to prove you have it, you have lost it. Arrogance is thinking too much of yourself. And it’s not that humility is thinking too little of yourself; it’s not thinking of yourself at all. Yet the most truly humble person is backed into a corner and put at an unfair disadvantage when his arguing counterpart makes this accusation.
Humility, and arrogance, is more displayed through actions than words. So all you can do is let your actions continue to speak for you and not let your words even try to defend you. Whether this accusation has been made of you because the other person is caught up in the heat of debate or that he actual believes this to be true of you, you are not going to be able to convince him otherwise in a matter of short minutes.
Yes it’s unfair. Yes it’s mean. And unless someone is saying this politely to you in private because they are honestly concerned for you, it is hitting below the belt. You should feel no obligation to even be in conversation with someone who is stepping over the line like that.
Know who you are. Settle your place on the arrogance radar with God. But by uttering a single word in response to someone who says this to you, it will only appear you are giving validation to their hasty claim.
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