Posted By Aaron Marcelli on April 11, 2012
My wife and I have had discussions about the idea of “the one.” We both believe in a version of “the one,” and both our views have adjusted over time. When it comes to this subject some hold to the view that people are created for each other and led to that right person. Others believe that we meet the people we meet and when we’re ready we invest in a relationship and make that other person their “one.”
Regardless of who’s right, my wife and I don’t care anymore because we’re married now. This solidifies that I am the one for her and she is the one for me. We both traveled broken roads and stubbed our toes a few times in finding each other but we’re together now and we know God brought us together. Whether it was meant to be or you chose it to be, once a couple gets married that is who God desires each spouse to be with. Through thick or thin, your spouse is who you’ve committed yourself to and is the only person to whom God will hold you accountable for being faithful. Sometimes that will be work, but many times that will be a great pleasure.
I have found myself lately telling Katy that she is my one and only. I don’t know where I got that phrase, but I find myself saying it repeatedly. I say it not to earn romantic points with her, but because in my heart she truly is the one for me and the only one I do or ever will desire. This is as much a commitment on my part as it is a romantic feeling of affection.
Saying this phrase is a reminder and acknowledgement of the seriousness with which I take my marriage. It is a verbal wedding ring that affirms my commitment to her out of love for her and obedience to God.
Marriage is the most exclusive and most committed relationship we can have with another human. Whether your marriage is good, bad, or indifferent, the person you are married to is your one and only. I believe the marriages that are happiest and healthiest are those where that truth is spoken and lived out on a daily basis.